Comments for Karla McLaren http://karlamclaren.com Let's dance! Wed, 16 May 2012 16:40:16 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.2 Comment on Stress is a weasel word — and maybe that’s good! by Karla http://karlamclaren.com/stress-is-a-weasel-word-and-maybe-thats-good/comment-page-1/#comment-5304 Karla Wed, 16 May 2012 16:40:16 +0000 http://karlamclaren.com/?p=2762#comment-5304 Weasels do that! I mean that in a non-defamatory way, of course. Weasels do that! I mean that in a non-defamatory way, of course.

]]> Comment on Stress is a weasel word — and maybe that’s good! by Kaitlyn http://karlamclaren.com/stress-is-a-weasel-word-and-maybe-thats-good/comment-page-1/#comment-5303 Kaitlyn Wed, 16 May 2012 15:48:27 +0000 http://karlamclaren.com/?p=2762#comment-5303 Brilliant! I love it. Especially the alliterative way it has weaselled into my head. Brilliant! I love it. Especially the alliterative way it has weaselled into my head.

]]> Comment on The Gifts of Anger by Karla http://karlamclaren.com/the-gifts-of-anger/comment-page-1/#comment-5301 Karla Wed, 16 May 2012 14:44:37 +0000 http://karlamclaren.com/?p=466#comment-5301 Oh, I'm sorry to hear about the abuse you experienced. It's not fair. And your situation of anger impairment is very common in children of emotional abusers. In my book, I talk about people who lead with sadness or other emotions rather than anger, because the anger they saw in childhood was too awful. I call it a swashbuckling move -- turning away from anger -- not a weak one. I'm glad you're working with your anger again. It's an awesome and necessary emotion, even though many people are absolutely appallingly bad with their own angers. Oh, I’m sorry to hear about the abuse you experienced. It’s not fair. And your situation of anger impairment is very common in children of emotional abusers. In my book, I talk about people who lead with sadness or other emotions rather than anger, because the anger they saw in childhood was too awful. I call it a swashbuckling move — turning away from anger — not a weak one.

I’m glad you’re working with your anger again. It’s an awesome and necessary emotion, even though many people are absolutely appallingly bad with their own angers.

]]> Comment on The Gifts of Anger by SocraticGadfly http://karlamclaren.com/the-gifts-of-anger/comment-page-1/#comment-5287 SocraticGadfly Tue, 15 May 2012 19:30:59 +0000 http://karlamclaren.com/?p=466#comment-5287 Karla, thanks for sharing your life experiences. I reacted just the opposite. Afraid of anger because of emotional and occasional physical abuse from my dad, and with a molester-abuser also at home and all the emotions that brought up, I am just learning, years later, how to really deal with my anger in any way other than totally internalizing it. Karla, thanks for sharing your life experiences. I reacted just the opposite. Afraid of anger because of emotional and occasional physical abuse from my dad, and with a molester-abuser also at home and all the emotions that brought up, I am just learning, years later, how to really deal with my anger in any way other than totally internalizing it.

]]> Comment on Stress is a weasel word — and maybe that’s good! by Karla http://karlamclaren.com/stress-is-a-weasel-word-and-maybe-thats-good/comment-page-1/#comment-5285 Karla Tue, 15 May 2012 17:02:14 +0000 http://karlamclaren.com/?p=2762#comment-5285 Janice, thanks for working with emotions and empathy in whatever way you can. Your people are lucky to have you! Thank you for bringing empathy into a waiting world! I think I've got an idea for a new musical: Weasel Words in Funky Town! Janice, thanks for working with emotions and empathy in whatever way you can. Your people are lucky to have you! Thank you for bringing empathy into a waiting world!

I think I’ve got an idea for a new musical: Weasel Words in Funky Town!

]]> Comment on Stress is a weasel word — and maybe that’s good! by Janice http://karlamclaren.com/stress-is-a-weasel-word-and-maybe-thats-good/comment-page-1/#comment-5284 Janice Tue, 15 May 2012 16:30:48 +0000 http://karlamclaren.com/?p=2762#comment-5284 Thanks, Karla! I had a chance Sunday and today to really use some weaselwords~ even the Lesser Weasels:-). They really help when the other person is obviously in some emotional distress, but doesn't have the skills to work with the mood state emotion. It is hard to watch someone drown in sadness. grief, etc, and have their primary means of dealing with the emotion be distraction. I'm giving it time and letting them know I am there if they want to talk. How about "In a funk" for another weasel (they multiply like rabbits, the darn things:-)))). Thanks, Karla! I had a chance Sunday and today to really use some weaselwords~ even the Lesser Weasels:-). They really help when the other person is obviously in some emotional distress, but doesn’t have the skills to work with the mood state emotion. It is hard to watch someone drown in sadness. grief, etc, and have their primary means of dealing with the emotion be distraction. I’m giving it time and letting them know I am there if they want to talk.
How about “In a funk” for another weasel (they multiply like rabbits, the darn things:-)))).

]]> Comment on Empaths on the Autism Spectrum, part 1 by Karla http://karlamclaren.com/empaths-on-the-autism-spectrum-part-1/comment-page-1/#comment-5232 Karla Wed, 09 May 2012 19:39:43 +0000 http://karlamclaren.com/?p=2131#comment-5232 Hi Mark, thanks for writing! Are you connected at all to the autistic self-advocate community? It's a wonderful resource that is working to present autism as a function of neurodiversity. During all that Autism Awareness noise last month, with the dehumanizing puzzle pieces and disease rhetoric, I hung out with the cool autistic people! Here are a few sites you might like: <a href="http://thinkingautismguide.blogspot.com/" target="_blank" rel="nofollow">The Thinking Person's Guide to Autism</a> <a href="http://autisticadvocacy.org/" target="_blank" rel="nofollow">The Autistic Self Advocacy Network</a> And here's <a href="http://blogs.plos.org/neurotribes/2012/04/02/autism-awareness-is-not-enough-heres-how-to-change-the-world/" target="_blank" rel="nofollow">a wonderful piece</a> by my friend Steve Silberman, who's writing a book about autism and neurodiversity. I hope you like them! Hi Mark, thanks for writing! Are you connected at all to the autistic self-advocate community? It’s a wonderful resource that is working to present autism as a function of neurodiversity. During all that Autism Awareness noise last month, with the dehumanizing puzzle pieces and disease rhetoric, I hung out with the cool autistic people! Here are a few sites you might like:

The Thinking Person’s Guide to Autism

The Autistic Self Advocacy Network

And here’s a wonderful piece by my friend Steve Silberman, who’s writing a book about autism and neurodiversity.

I hope you like them!

]]> Comment on Empaths on the Autism Spectrum, part 1 by Mark http://karlamclaren.com/empaths-on-the-autism-spectrum-part-1/comment-page-1/#comment-5231 Mark Wed, 09 May 2012 19:19:36 +0000 http://karlamclaren.com/?p=2131#comment-5231 This article explains why when I called people on what I saw in their faces or body language, I was always told I was wrong. This article is a game-changer for me and my wife. I am an HFA and she is a Super NT (Empath). We write a a blog (like everyone else, :) ) on our experience with my Asperger's and our miscommunication. You've just cleared up my frustration over thinking I was crazy because I thought I was reading people wrong. Thank you. Mark and Michelle Hedges This article explains why when I called people on what I saw in their faces or body language, I was always told I was wrong. This article is a game-changer for me and my wife. I am an HFA and she is a Super NT (Empath). We write a a blog (like everyone else, :) ) on our experience with my Asperger’s and our miscommunication. You’ve just cleared up my frustration over thinking I was crazy because I thought I was reading people wrong. Thank you.

Mark and Michelle Hedges

]]> Comment on Our online course is here: Emotional Flow! by Karla http://karlamclaren.com/our-online-course-is-here-emotional-flow/comment-page-1/#comment-5117 Karla Tue, 01 May 2012 17:52:49 +0000 http://karlamclaren.com/?p=2591#comment-5117 Hello! The course is available at any time. The live portion is just coming to an end, but all 8 session of the course are available now, and will be in the future. All of the live content has been recorded, and is now available for you to enjoy. It's a wonderful course, and such fun! Hello! The course is available at any time. The live portion is just coming to an end, but all 8 session of the course are available now, and will be in the future. All of the live content has been recorded, and is now available for you to enjoy. It’s a wonderful course, and such fun!

]]> Comment on Our online course is here: Emotional Flow! by Beloved http://karlamclaren.com/our-online-course-is-here-emotional-flow/comment-page-1/#comment-5115 Beloved Tue, 01 May 2012 15:03:22 +0000 http://karlamclaren.com/?p=2591#comment-5115 Will you be offering this course again in 2012 and/or 2013? I found out about you and your work recently. Will you be offering this course again in 2012 and/or 2013? I found out about you and your work recently.

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