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Five Year Overnight Success!

March 17, 2010

I just found out that a sociological study I co-authored with Janja Lalich, Ph.D. (see her books here) has been accepted for publication by a peer-reviewed journal. Yow! It’s so exciting!

It’s a study of the lives of gay, lesbian, and questioning ex-Jehovah’s Witnesses. When Janja first told me about the study, I laughed and thought, “Why not do a study on green-eyed male writers from the north-side of Chicago who don’t drink coffee?” The group seemed ludicrously specific, and I wondered what I could ever learn from studying them.

But as I delved into the life stories of these people, and coded and re-read their stories (nearly 700 times before I was finished), I realized that this group presented a pitch-perfect example of triple stigma — which is something that the great sociologist Erving Goffman had not completely considered in his classic 1963 book Stigma: Notes on the Management of Spoiled Identity.

Cover of the book Stigma

Goffman outlined a “three-fold typology of identity,” wherein he separated the social identity we present to the larger world (I am Dave the musician), the personal identity we present to family and peers (I am Dave the friend, husband, and family member), and the ego identity we present to ourselves as our inner, private, “backstage” selves (I am me, Dave, inside my private thoughts).

Goffman asserted that stigmatized people could create a repair station in their personal identity (think of deaf children whose families provide rich signing environments), or in their ego identity (for instance, in wheelchair-bound children who fantasize about flying or about a world where wheelchairs are normal). What I noticed in these gay, lesbian, and questioning Jehovah’s Witnesses is that they didn’t have any identity that could act as a repair station for them, and I wondered how they survived?

The Jehovah’s Witnesses have strong prohibitions against homosexuality, and in that religion, it is seen as Satanic and unnatural. In many of the stories I read, the narrators reported knowing for certain inside their hearts (sometimes by the age of five or six) that Jehovah despised them. That took the possibility of an ego identity repair station right out of the picture!

These narrators also had no possible repair stations in their personal identities either, because being a Jehovah’s Witness means absolutely not being gay, lesbian, or bisexual. So their friends, family, and peers could not provide any comfort or repair.

And because the Jehovah’s Witnesses are separated from the larger society and are somewhat mysterious, these narrators also experienced a stigma in their social identities (oh, Larry is about to witness to us … run!). So they had no repair stations anywhere, and they experienced a triple dose of stigma. How did they survive? Our study explores these lives pretty deeply, and proposes some new ideas about stigma that I think Goffman would have appreciated. Writing theory and adding to his work was so cool. It was like conversing with him!

Photo of Erving Goffman

One of my hero/mentors, Erving Goffman (1922-1982)

The study was also very healing for me (it acted as a repair station, so thank you, Janja!), because when I left my New Age career, I too experienced stigma in all three identity areas. My career, my family life, my peer life, and my inner life … all became completely unmoored when I left all my metaphysical beliefs behind. I had to create a new self out of duct tape, lolcatz, thousands of books and studies, and sea glass.

The time I spent with these lovely, strong, resilient gay and lesbian ex-Jehovah’s Witnesses helped me understand how to rebuild my life. I’m grateful to them, and I’m so glad that their story will be told. The reason this was a Five Year Overnight Success is that many of the journals we sent the study to were either put off by the religious aspect, the GLBT aspect, or the fact that Janja and I allowed the narratives to paint a pretty bleak picture of the real-life effects of homophobic religious beliefs.

So boo-ya! to the Journal of Homosexuality for giving this study its place in the canon. All stigmatized people need to know they’re not alone, and anything we can do as a society to expose prejudice, homophobia, and intolerance … well I’m all for it!

2011 update: Here’s a PDF of the study, which you can download now: JoHStudyLalich and McLaren

6 Comments

JY March 17, 2010 at 2:41 pm

All right! Five years to an overnight success with a place for this study! Finally…yay, Karla!

Karla March 17, 2010 at 7:54 pm

Isn’t it fab! I also learned so much insider information about what a life in academic research is like. It kinda put me off the idea, which is good? But also a bummer. I still think a great deal about pursuing a Ph.D. in sociology, but the extreme specialization required makes me think I’ll become less educated, rather than more.

Maybe I just stay as I am, reading everything I can get my hands on, having the freedom to go off on whatever tangent I like, and being an al fresco academic? Hah!

Simon March 20, 2010 at 7:11 am

Oh. This is good info. I have been thinking about this: damaged identity idea. I have always intuitively known about its horrors. Homophobia is so deeply ingrained in all of us, in so many ways, it’s simply scary. It’s all around us. It’s everywhere. It’s deeply internalized. Ouch. I guess the more we become aware of it, the more we’ll eliminate it.

Sharon Summerford August 24, 2010 at 2:58 am

I have a phd in sufferING!! LOL

Jan June 21, 2013 at 11:31 am

Karla,
I am totally psyched to be finding all your stuff on all the various topics in all the various places. Your idea of “al fresco academics” is so appealing to me… it seems to be the hallmark of Montessori learning, it is too bad it doesn’t extend past preschool to higher education. But maybe you don’t need the letters behind your name.
A friend shared your CD’s with me and we are starting to listen together. I can’t get enough and want to explore and employ all I hear. I’m also fascinated with your personal background and what has brought you to your current place. I’m so admiresome of you being someone who embraces your own discoveries.
Further, the component of your GLBT research excites me as well. I’m a 57 year old recovering fundamentalist, originally from the Bay Area too, that took into my 30’s and still, to embrace my Lesbian nature and come to grips with the myriad ways my legalistic upbringing impacted all areas of my life especially intimate relationships… there are so many of us “lefthanded, greeneyed, red headed, non coffee drinking, etc. gay folks out here.(not all those things are true of me, I was riffing on your “Chicago writer thing”) I wish you were in our area for empath work and other opportunities… what fascinating lines of study you are pursuing and how wonderfully accessible you make it all in your talks and books.
Thank you,
Jan Cieloha

Karla June 21, 2013 at 12:04 pm

Thank you Jan! I’m so glad you got away from the fundamentalist situation. Wow, it’s not a good place for GLBTQ people to be. Did you see the story this week about the huge reversal of one “pray the gay away” organization? Wow, that’s such a positive step.

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