Comments on: How to talk to sad, jealous, anxious kids http://karlamclaren.com/how-to-talk-to-sad-jealous-anxious-kids/ Let's dance! Sun, 05 Feb 2012 21:58:26 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: Karla http://karlamclaren.com/how-to-talk-to-sad-jealous-anxious-kids/comment-page-1/#comment-21 Karla Wed, 17 Mar 2010 19:57:23 +0000 http://karlamclaren.com/?p=436#comment-21 Ooh, I'm glad they've all created a sort of boundary around her. Wow. What betrayal she's had to deal with. I hope she gets into a great university and can blow that popstand and find her own way in the world. However, some therapy would be marvelous! And let's lock the parents in a rubber room and let them sort it out. Ooh, I’m glad they’ve all created a sort of boundary around her. Wow. What betrayal she’s had to deal with.

I hope she gets into a great university and can blow that popstand and find her own way in the world. However, some therapy would be marvelous! And let’s lock the parents in a rubber room and let them sort it out.

]]> By: JY http://karlamclaren.com/how-to-talk-to-sad-jealous-anxious-kids/comment-page-1/#comment-19 JY Wed, 17 Mar 2010 15:04:37 +0000 http://karlamclaren.com/?p=436#comment-19 Terrible behavior on the parents' part, you've got that right! How they've all managed to survive in this tiny community together, obviously not without huge costs... The teachers & counselors at the school have been on the "loving alert" about this girl, but the enormous stresses on her as she waits to hear from all the Ivy League schools she's applied to are worrying... They need intervention by an Emotional SWAT team! Terrible behavior on the parents’ part, you’ve got that right! How they’ve all managed to survive in this tiny community together, obviously not without huge costs… The teachers & counselors at the school have been on the “loving alert” about this girl, but the enormous stresses on her as she waits to hear from all the Ivy League schools she’s applied to are worrying…

They need intervention by an Emotional SWAT team!

]]> By: Karlacita! http://karlamclaren.com/how-to-talk-to-sad-jealous-anxious-kids/comment-page-1/#comment-17 Karlacita! Tue, 16 Mar 2010 23:22:42 +0000 http://karlamclaren.com/?p=436#comment-17 Ooh Judy! Those parents need a talking to! Jealousy, yeah, but I'm a little concerned about how much shame the girl must also be feeling, to have her family's failures so out there where everyone can see them. And that she's targeting an adult male for a comeuppance, ooh. I wonder if someone should warn him? She's a little unstable. But I still think her parents need a talking to. That's some terrible behavior on both of their parts! Ooh Judy! Those parents need a talking to!

Jealousy, yeah, but I’m a little concerned about how much shame the girl must also be feeling, to have her family’s failures so out there where everyone can see them. And that she’s targeting an adult male for a comeuppance, ooh. I wonder if someone should warn him? She’s a little unstable.

But I still think her parents need a talking to. That’s some terrible behavior on both of their parts!

]]> By: JY http://karlamclaren.com/how-to-talk-to-sad-jealous-anxious-kids/comment-page-1/#comment-16 JY Tue, 16 Mar 2010 16:56:00 +0000 http://karlamclaren.com/?p=436#comment-16 Nice work, Karla, you're spot on here! I have a current story about my 18 year old niece and her relationship with one of the girls in her small HS class. The girl (not my niece) is a mess, coping with a very public drama of daddy leaving mommy for one of her very own teachers at the school. Now daddy's got a new baby with new wife & mommy has been rampaging her vindictive feelings about him everywhere she can. My niece has had a friendly enough relationship with the girl, who alternately goes from being introspective & sensitive & thoughtful to acting arrogant, dismissive & mean, until one day she found the little plastic animal figurine she'd given her as a token of friendship with its head torn off in her school (mail)box. This was an apparent jealous reaction to my niece's "going over to the other side" (consulting with a particular teacher about spiritual/religious issues) all of which the girl claims to hate. The girl is smart & tough & unbending, often difficult for "nurturing" teachers. The latest in this emotional drama is her text message to my niece saying that she'd had it with the teacher and was going "take him down." My niece is keenly aware this is not about the teacher at all but about the investment the girl had made in the friendship with her. In other words, the girl is behaving like a madly jealous jilted lover (like her mama). Someone needs to reach this girl to help her safely explore these feelings clearly out of control, not an easy order in the incestuously small environment that all of this is happening. However, it actually is a caring, loving "intentional community," so we'll see how well they can handle it... Nice work, Karla, you’re spot on here! I have a current story about my 18 year old niece and her relationship with one of the girls in her small HS class. The girl (not my niece) is a mess, coping with a very public drama of daddy leaving mommy for one of her very own teachers at the school. Now daddy’s got a new baby with new wife & mommy has been rampaging her vindictive feelings about him everywhere she can. My niece has had a friendly enough relationship with the girl, who alternately goes from being introspective & sensitive & thoughtful to acting arrogant, dismissive & mean, until one day she found the little plastic animal figurine she’d given her as a token of friendship with its head torn off in her school (mail)box. This was an apparent jealous reaction to my niece’s “going over to the other side” (consulting with a particular teacher about spiritual/religious issues) all of which the girl claims to hate. The girl is smart & tough & unbending, often difficult for “nurturing” teachers. The latest in this emotional drama is her text message to my niece saying that she’d had it with the teacher and was going “take him down.” My niece is keenly aware this is not about the teacher at all but about the investment the girl had made in the friendship with her. In other words, the girl is behaving like a madly jealous jilted lover (like her mama). Someone needs to reach this girl to help her safely explore these feelings clearly out of control, not an easy order in the incestuously small environment that all of this is happening. However, it actually is a caring, loving “intentional community,” so we’ll see how well they can handle it…

]]> By: Mj http://karlamclaren.com/how-to-talk-to-sad-jealous-anxious-kids/comment-page-1/#comment-15 Mj Tue, 16 Mar 2010 10:53:42 +0000 http://karlamclaren.com/?p=436#comment-15 I love your insite and your ability to language these emotions. Great help to those parents who are frustraited and do not understand.. I love your insite and your ability to language these emotions.
Great help to those parents who are frustraited and do not understand..

]]> By: Simon http://karlamclaren.com/how-to-talk-to-sad-jealous-anxious-kids/comment-page-1/#comment-14 Simon Mon, 15 Mar 2010 21:44:25 +0000 http://karlamclaren.com/?p=436#comment-14 I don't have kids but I do have a puppy, so I relate, tremendously. lol I don’t have kids but I do have a puppy, so I relate, tremendously. lol

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