Comments on: The Gifts of Shame

By: Emotion Work Revisited! « Karla McLaren

Emotion Work Revisited! « Karla McLaren — Mon, 12 Dec 2011 20:04:28 +0000

[...] you allow people to feel appropriate shame (see The Gifts of Shame) so that they can learn how to moderate their own behavior, or do you soothe shame away as well? If [...]

By: Even more emotional vocabulary! « Karla McLaren

Even more emotional vocabulary! « Karla McLaren — Thu, 23 Sep 2010 18:37:58 +0000

[...] Here is The Gifts of Shame post to help you understand the positive aspects of shame. The practice for shame is to understand it as anger toward yourself, hopefully for something you’ve actually done wrong — which means you can make amends and change your behavior. In the book, I call this kind of shame “appropriate shame,” because it relates to something real and fixable: If your shame is appropriate, it will stop you from doing something you shouldn’t, and it will help you change your behavior and make amends. [...]

By: maggie

maggie — Wed, 04 Aug 2010 07:01:10 +0000

How refreshing !
Now I get it , in relation to shame.
I always found the feeling so overwhelming, I couldn’t step back and find anything useful in it.
Hey I like your work, I can learn something here .
Thank you Karla

By: The Gifts of Contentment | Care2 Healthy & Green Living

The Gifts of Contentment | Care2 Healthy & Green Living — Sat, 17 Jul 2010 22:11:15 +0000

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By: What’s so funny ’bout “negative” emotions? « Karla McLaren

Wed, 14 Jul 2010 21:15:45 +0000

[...] Shame is another emotion people run from but shouldn’t. You feel shame when your behavior may hurt another person, or when you’re going against one of your rules of conduct. Shame brings you the strength you need to halt your behavior and make amends. As such, shame is massively pro-social; it’s one of the most pro-social emotions going, but the myopic and confused views many people bring to their study of emotions throws shame into the shadows. [...]

By: Intuition is what? « Karla McLaren

Intuition is what? « Karla McLaren — Sat, 10 Jul 2010 02:32:04 +0000

[...] are honorable boundary-setting, a healthy self-image, and the capacity for healthy detachment. Shame, the partner of healthy anger, brings you integrity and the strength you need to change your [...]

By: Don’t pee on my leg and tell me it’s raining! « Karla McLaren

Don’t pee on my leg and tell me it’s raining! « Karla McLaren — Thu, 24 Jun 2010 01:23:52 +0000

[...] start with shame (see The Gifts of Shame): If you’ve got a good relationship with your anger, you’ll also have a good [...]