Shame is probably the most deeply misunderstood emotion there is, and considering how poor our emotional education has been, that saying a lot!
Most people try to avoid shame, but shame is one of the most crucial, vital, and helpful emotions you have. Shame’s job is to help you live up to the agreements you’ve made and the morals you value.
Shame is irreplaceable, but because it can be painful, people have mistakenly learned to blame the shame instead of looking at what it’s responding to.
Why do you feel shame? What is shame’s purpose?
Shame exists to keep you upright and accountable, and it helps you become a person of your word. Shame protects your position in the social world, and it protects you from stepping off of the path you’ve set for yourself.
If you aren’t upright, and if you step off your path, you put yourself in personal and social danger, and you may endanger others as well. Shame will stop you, hopefully before you do something unethical or insensitive, or it will hold you accountable after you misbehave.
Yes, this can be painful, but shame didn’t cause the pain; it’s responding, as it should, to your missteps and misdeeds. That’s a marvelous thing for your shame to do.
Shame helps you live up to the agreements you’ve made and the morals you value. The work isn’t to shut down your shame; it’s to make sure that your agreements are worthy of your time, and that your morals are livable, appropriate, and freely chosen by you.
We’ve got many practices in Dynamic Emotional Integration® to help you work with your shame, and to free it from being forced to uphold old or abusive agreements, or unlivable or soul-killing morals.
An online course to help you explore and befriend your shame
Next month at Empathy Academy, we have a wonderful 4-week course on shame that can help you identify this vital emotion and the agreements and morals it’s responding to.
This course, Befriending Shame: Harnessing the Power of Your Healthy Conscience, is taught by dual-licensed Dynamic Emotional Integration® professional Anchen Texter, and it’s a wonderful gift to give to yourself, to your shame, and to your entire emotional realm.
We welcome you and your vital, irreplaceable shame to this course.
Befriending Shame Course Details
- Length: 4 weeks
- Dates: Starts Monday, March 2nd, and ends Friday, March 27th, 2020
- Price: $145
- Learning and Interaction Structure: This multimedia course contains written curriculum units, PDF downloads, audio and video components, forum discussions, and live one-hour weekly webinars using the Zoom video conferencing program.
- This Course is Suitable For: Everyone interested in emotional skills, healthy behavior, and loving self-care.