“Without a doubt, this is THE workbook for better mental health, relationships that flourish, and overall life success and satisfaction.” ~ Anita Nowak, PhD, author of Purposeful Empathy Hello! I’m so pleased to introduce my newest book, which is available wherever books are sold! The Language of Emotions Workbook is an accessible, practical, and activities-filled workbook that will help you learn to identify, understand, and work directly … Read More
Becoming accurate with your empathy The crucial second aspect of empathy, Empathic Accuracy, helps you identify and understand emotions in yourself and others. This skill can make your experience of empathy much more precise and workable! Let’s revisit the six aspects so that we can understand where Empathic Accuracy fits into the larger picture: Emotion Contagion: Before empathy can take place, you need to sense that … Read More
Your emotions are essential aspects of your awareness, your intelligence, your social skills, and your ability to communicate — and each one has a specific purpose. Every emotion has a specific function and a specific action for you to complete so that it can move back and make room for your next emotion, your next thought, and your next idea. As we explore emotions as distinct … Read More
When I talk about The Language of Emotions, one of the central ideas I share is that all emotions are useful. If you can approach them with care and ask them the right questions, there aren’t any “negative” emotions. Every emotion has a specific function, and all of them are important and instructive Some emotions (such as hatred and panic), need to be handled with care, … Read More
It’s normal for emotions to work together One big misunderstanding happens regularly with anger – which many people misidentify as a “second-hand emotion.” People have a lot of mistaken ideas about anger, but this is one of the most unfortunate. This second-hand mistake is a very easy one to make if you don’t understand how anger will arise to protect you and your other emotions (and … Read More
It is normal for emotions to arise in pairs and groups! Learning how to work with your emotions empathically means learning how they work and how to work with them directly. Many of the emotional confusions we have arise because we weren’t taught that emotions work together to help us make sense of our world. Emotions are aspects of our awareness and our intelligence, and when … Read More
Each emotion arises at many different levels of intensity Working with emotions empathically means learning how they work and how to work with them respectfully. One very important key to developing emotional skills is to learn how to identify emotions at many different levels. This is especially important if you only become aware of your emotions when they’re very intense. Learning about their nuanced states can … Read More
How to define your boundaries Boundaries can be confusing to people. Are boundaries rules? Statements? Guidelines? Borders? When we set boundaries with people, what are we doing? When we set boundaries with children, are we disciplining them, or are we guiding them? Boundaries seem to mean many things, so let’s define what we mean by boundaries. Setting boundaries around boundaries Simply put, a boundary is a … Read More
There is a middle path for your emotions In my work, Dynamic Emotional Integration®, I’ve organized the emotions into four families, and I’ve also developed four keys to help people learn how to work with their emotions in new and healing ways. The first key is to unvalence your emotions (because there is no such thing as positive or negative emotions), and the second key is … Read More
There are no positive or negative emotions As we study emotions empathically, we look at each emotion in terms of what it does, what gifts it brings to you, and how you can work with it. And in order to do that, there are four vital keys that can help you unlock the genius in your emotions. The first key: Unvalence the emotions All of your … Read More