How to Support Antiracism in Yourself and the World

How do we build a more loving and inclusive world? In 2016, when the serious troubles in the United States began to boil and coalesce into ever deepening and blatant racism, I went into a period of study with my friend and colleague Amanda Ball. We read everything that we could get our hands on about race, prejudice, and discrimination, and we educated ourselves from the … Read More

Understanding cultic leaders so that you can leave them behind

Focusing on the abuse that has ensnared our country I tend to write about explosive things in undercurrent, and one reader noted that if you can’t read subtext, you may not realize what I’m writing. Growing up in the emotionally-repressive world of the yoga, alternative medicine, and New Age cultures taught me how to say things very clearly yet subtly so that less aware people couldn’t … Read More

Emotional Flow!

Learn to Access the Healing Genius in Your Emotions  Starts Monday, November 30th at Empathy Academy 8 week online course – $165 This would be a perfect time to learn how to work with all of your emotions. Your emotions — all of them — are vital to your intelligence, your social skills, and your ability to understand yourself and the world around you. Each of … Read More

The toxic effects of toxic charisma

There is always a way out of cultic relationships As a cult survivor and cult researcher, I am speaking out about the cultic control of our country, and I know this: there is always a way out. I wrote about Donald Trump’s cultic leadership style last week, and shared nine facets that cult leaders share. He’s doing all nine of them: Understanding Unhealthy Leadership. What this … Read More

How cult leaders entrap their followers — and their detractors

Understanding the ways cult leaders gain and maintain power Hello! I’m going to being speaking more openly about cults and cult leaders over the next few days and weeks, because we have a cultic leader in power here in the United States. And people on the outside of this cult have mostly failed to help, to protect the people trapped in the cult, or to offer … Read More

When fear, anxiety, and panic are necessary

Welcoming the genius in the Fear Family In times of danger and upheaval, many emotions will step forward to offer their gifts and their unique forms of genius. But most of us don’t know this, so we treat our emotions as problems instead of gifts. But your emotions are not problems! They arise to help you deal with problems! I’m seeing people everywhere telling us not … Read More

When sadness, grief, and depression are necessary

Welcoming the gifts of the Sadness Family In times of upheaval, loss, and trouble, many emotions will step forward to offer their gifts and their unique forms of genius. If you don’t know this, you may mistakenly respond to multiple emotions as if they’re problems in and of themselves. You don’t have to; there is another way. All emotions bring you help and support, and all … Read More

Multiple emotions are necessary, now and always

Yes, you can learn to work with multiple emotions! In fact, you already do work with multiple emotions, because it’s completely natural for emotions to arise in pairs, groups, and clusters. Emotions are vital aspects of your capacity to think, decide, behave, and act, and each one brings you specific gifts and skills — and it’s normal and natural to require more than one gift or … Read More

In Defense of Judgment

Your judgments have value and purpose When I grew up in spiritual groups, I was taught that judgment was forbidden, and wow, was that a colossal mistake. This no-judgment rule is still infecting a lot of communities, however, so it’s worth looking at again. This essay is from my 2010 book The Language of Emotions. When I refer to judgment, I refer to your capacity to … Read More

Caring for Yourself in Anxious Times

Your anxiety is necessary — and you can learn how to work with it If you’re feeling anxious, very anxious, or deeply anxious right now, I have good news for you: your anxiety is normal and necessary. You need your anxiety, and there are supportive skills and practices to help you work with your anxiety instead of being worked over by it. Most of us have … Read More

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