The importance of healthy boundaries

How to define your boundaries

Boundaries can be confusing to people. Are boundaries rules? Statements? Guidelines? Borders?

When we set boundaries with people, what are we doing? When we set boundaries with children, are we disciplining them, or are we guiding them?

Boundaries seem to mean many things, so let’s define what we mean by boundaries.

Setting boundaries around boundaries

Simply put, a boundary is a border. A dividing line or a limit. Boundaries can be: 

  • Physical 
  • Personal 
  • Relational
  • Temporal

In my work, I help people develop a sense of physical and personal boundaries so that they can have the sense of privacy they need to be able to work with their thoughts, emotions, visions, dreams, and needs.

If you tend to be very sensitive or hyper-empathic, this physical sense of boundaries can be very supportive.

You can learn this practice with me in the video below.

The emotions that help you maintain your sense of personal boundaries are (surprise!) anger and shame.

Both of these vital emotions tend to be distrusted or repressed, but both are essential for healthy inner and outer boundaries. 

As you move forward with a sense of your boundaries, working with your anger and shame will be crucial for your success.

Thank you, anger and shame! 

 

2 Responses

  1. Nicholas Burch
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    Last night I made another improvement in my imaginal connection with my anger and shame and hate and panic! Channeling my anger and igniting my boundary is making my body feel safer and able to function more fully which is what my overall goal currently is! I can’t wait to see how I experience this change throughout the day today!

    • Karla McLaren
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      Hooray Nicholas!

      Though I have to say that it’s an unusual space we’ve got here, where we can both be proud of your connection to emotions most people run from!

      Yay boundaries!

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